n this short article, we will learn if it is okay for one person out of a couple to get the blessing of Amrit.
If a Sikh wants to take Amrit, they should take it. The Sikh Code of Conduct mentions that if a Singh (referring to a man) is Amritdhari (Initiated Sikh), he should try to get his wife to take Amrit, but it doesn’t say to force her. The same applies to a woman, a Kaur who wishes to be blessed with Amrit. In 1699, Guru Gobind Singh Ji never told the first Panj Piaare (Five Beloved Ones) to get their partners with them to take Amrit. Gurbani states that Amrit is for those people who have the thirst within them.
ਜਿਨ ਕਉ ਲਗੀ ਪਿਆਸ ਅੰਮ੍ਰਿਤੁ ਸੇਇ ਖਾਹਿ ॥
Of course, it is easier for the couple if both of them are Amritdhari. So, people started saying that a couple should try to take Amrit together. It is a recommendation, but it should not be a limitation. If your partner is not ready to take Amrit now but they are willing to support you, then you should take Amrit without any delay, because we don’t know if we will draw in our next breath!
The Benefit of Taking Amrit
Another aspect to this is that if you take Amrit, you will benefit your whole family. Guru Amardas Ji says that if you become a Gurmukh (follower of the Guru and not the desires of the mind), and you Jap Naam (Connect and meditate on Vaheguru), then your life would be worthwhile. You would get respect in Sach Khand (Realm of Truth), and your whole family would get saved.
ਸਤਿਗੁਰੁ ਸੇਵਹਿ ਸੇ ਮਹਾਪੁਰਖ ਸੰਸਾਰੇ ॥
ਆਪਿ ਉਧਰੇ ਕੁਲ ਸਗਲ ਨਿਸਤਾਰੇ ॥
When your family would see you keeping your spiritual discipline, reading your Nitnem (Sikh daily prayers), and experiencing your love for Vaheguru, even they might get the desire to be blessed with Amrit. When they see your internal and external transformation, even they might wish to experience the beauty of surrendering their life to the Guru.
As Guru Arjan Dev Ji describes in Gurbani,
ਤਿਨਾ ਦੇਖਿ ਮਨਿ ਚਾਉ ਉਠੰਦਾ ਹਉ ਕਦਿ ਪਾਈ ਗੁਣਤਾਸਾ ॥
Therefore, one must practice the Rehit (code of conduct) and go ahead and take Amrit if they have been blessed by a desire to do so.